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5 Things Friday- November 18

Celebrate the Holidays

1. Home for the Holidays Festival

When: 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. Friday and Saturday; 1 to 4 p.m. Sunday
Where: Lewis County Historical Society, 7552 S. State St.
What: Train display, silent auction, Christmas trees and wreaths, gingerbread houses on display. 7 to 9 p.m. Friday, Nov. 25; Adirondack Community Chorus concert, 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 26.
Cost: Free
Info: 376-8957

Friday to Sunday / Lowville

2. Baby It’s Cold Outside

When: 5 to 9 p.m. Friday
Where: Bonnie Castle Resort, 31 Holland St.
What: Part of Bonnie Castle “Pay it Forward” campaign, tastings and crafts.
Cost: Donation of a new or gently used winter outerwear item, given to local schools and churches for locals in need.
: Mariann, 482-4511, ext. 502, or

Friday / Alexandria Bay

3. Light up the Night Parade

When: 6:30 p.m. Saturday
Where: State St.
What: The parade begins at OFA school and follows State Street to the Dobisky Center at 100 Riverside Avenue. Floats will be lit up with lights and song. Children can visit with Santa after the parade.
Cost: Free
INFO: 393-3540

Saturday / Ogdensburg

4. Holiday Shopper’s Poker Run

When: 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday
Where: Participating businesses in Alexandria Bay, Clayton and Cape Vincent.
What: Collect cards from local businesses as you shop for the holidays. Cards handed in, 5 p.m., O’Brien’s, 226 Webb St. Receive cards Friday, Nov. 18 as well. Auctions, prizes, food, benefits local food pantries.
Cost: Free
INFO: Clayton Chamber of Commerce, 686-3771

Saturday / Clayton, Alexandria Bay, Cape Vincent

5. 22nd Annual Festival of Trees

When: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Friday to Sunday
Where: Thousand Islands Museum, 312 James St.
What: Local businesses, organizations and families bring in and decorate trees or other holiday displays.  Admission is free, but we ask that you bring in a non-perishable item for out “Fill the Boat” campaign which fills our St. Lawrence skiff with food for the local food pantry. Vote for your favorite display.
Cost: Free
INFO: 686-5794

Friday to Sunday / Clayton


Helping Others

1. Cancer Benefit for Kathy Ives

When: 5 p.m. Friday
Where: American Legion Post 586, 10 S. Main St.
What: 50/50 raffles, Chinese auctions. Proceeds to help family with medical bills and expenses.
Cost: Donation based
INFO: 232-2715

Friday / Adams

2. Third Annual Urban Mission Holiday Giveback

When: 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday
Where: Ramada Inn, 6300 Arsenal St.
What: Pictures with Santa, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Bring non-perishable food item or unwrapped toy for Urban Mission.
Cost: $10
INFO: or 529-4893

Saturday / Watertown

3. Bowl-A-Thon

When: 12:30 p.m. Saturday
Where: Pla-Mor Lanes, 577 State St.
What: To benefit Jefferson County SPCA. Lunch provided during luncheon at 2:30 p.m. Prices and trophies.
Cost: $16; per couple, $30.
INFO: 782-3260

Saturday / Watertown

4. Turkey Dinner and Basket Drawing

When: 5 p.m. Saturday
Where: John C. Londraville American Legion Post 832, 248 E. Broadway St.
What: Benefits legion auxiliary.
Cost: Free
INFO: 654-2101

Saturday / Cape Vincent

5. Memory Wreath

When: All day
What:  To benefit Lacona Clock Tower maintenance, with Coterie Club, names and payment of donation accepted through Saturday, Nov. 26. Names read night of wreath lighting: 6 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 27. Music and refreshments.
Cost: N/A
INFO/PAYMENTS: Eleanor Slater, Coterie Club Treasurer, P.O. Box 201, Sandy Creek, NY 13145. Checks payable to Coterie Club.

Saturday / Lacona


Fun with Learning

1. Pencil Drawing

When: 6 p.m. Friday
Where: Lyme Free Library, 12165 Route 12E
What: Learn the fundamentals of sketching and basic drawing techniques. For ages 11 and older.
Cost: $35
INFO: 786-2385 to register.

Friday / Chaumont

2. Snowmobile Safety Class

When: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday
Where: Copley Foundation House, 12030 Route 12E.
What: With Gary Kocher, New York Parks and Recreation instructor. Must be 10 or older.
Cost: N/A
INFO: 486-5230 or

Saturday / Chaumont

3. The Global Water Crisis, Abroad and at Home

When: 1:30 to 3:30 p.m. Sunday
Where: Sisters of St. Joseph Motherhouse, 1425 Washington St.
What: Presentation with Dr. Adrienne Rygel, associate professor and department chair of civil and environmental engineering technology, SUNY Canton. Light refreshments served.
INFO: Free

Sunday / Watertown

4. Share Your French Heritage! Stories from Quebec

When: 1 p.m. Saturday
Where: Adirondack Museum, Blue Mountain Lake
What: TAUNY has received funding to work with other partners in the region to research the historical connection between Northern New York and Quebec and to investigate the ongoing cultural influence of that connection. Participants are encouraged to bring your own photos of family members and homesteads, objects that represent family traditions, and other artifacts and heirlooms that tell the story of your French heritage. In addition to hearing your stories, we’d love to hear your ideas for future programs and projects that present this heritage to a wide audience. The program will be led by TAUNY’s Executive Director, Jill Breit.
Cost: Free

Saturday / Blue Mountain Lake

5. Children’s Fall Craft Classes

When: 2 to 3 p.m. Saturday
Where: The Gallery Lake Saint Lawrence Arts, 10 Main St.
What: Classes held every other Saturday afternoon. Materials are provided. No reservations required, just bring your kids.
Cost: $35

Saturday / Waddington


Something to Eat

1. Chicken and Biscuit Dinner

When: 4:30 to 7 p.m. Saturday
Where: First Congregational Church of Lisbon, 9226 County Route 28
What: Menu: chicken and biscuits, mashed potatoes and gravy, peas and carrots, coleslaw, pickles and cranberries, apple crisp, beverage. Benefits Camp Laurent Maintenance Fund
Cost: $9; children 10 and younger, $5.
INFO: 393-7780

Saturday / Lisbon

2. Haddock Dinner

When: 4 to 6 p.m. Saturday
Where: AMVETS Club, Whippleville Road
What: Open to the public.
Cost:  $9 per person

Sunday / Malone

3. Breakfast with Santa

When: 8 a.m. to 12 p.m. Sunday
Where: Sandy Ogdensburg Elks Lodge, 322 Caroline St.
What/Menu: scrambled eggs, pancakes, bacon, sausage, home fries, juice and coffee. All are welcome. Enjoy breakfast with Santa.
Cost: $7 pp and kids under 5 years eat for free.

Sunday / Ogdensburg

4. Hunters Pancake Breakfast

When: 7 to 11:30 a.m. Saturday
Where: Adams Center Fire Hall, 13401 North St.
What: Enjoy a pancake breakfast to benefit the Ladies Auxiliary.
Cost: $7.50; children ages 12 and younger, $4.
INFO: 583-5533

Saturday / Adams Center

5. Comedy Dinner at Tavern 230

When: 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. Sunday
Where: Tavern230 at Snow Ridge, 4173 West Road.
What: 4 p.m., happy hour and seating; 5 p.m., Italian buffet dinner; 6 p.m., show begins. Comedians: Moody McCarthy and Nick Marra.
Cost: $35
INFO: or main office, 348-8456

Sunday / Turin


Family Fun

1. Lego fun day

When: 10:30 a.m. to Noon Saturday
Where: Annie Porter Ainsworth Memorial Library, 6064 S. Main St.
What: Legos provided by library. Listen to Lego story. New theme every month. For ages 4-12. Ages 7 and younger must be accompanied by an adult.
Cost: Free
INFO: 387-3732

Saturday / Sandy Creek

2. Maple Science Fair

When: 3 p.m. Saturday
Where: American Maple Museum, 9756 State Route 812, Croghan
What: Learn about the maple industry through science experiments, maple products, maple trees and more.
Cost: Free
INFO: 346-1107

Saturday / Croghan

3. Learning to Work with Clay

When: 9 a.m. to noon Saturday
Where: Norwood American Legion, 10 Maple St.
What: These classes will allow students to explore all aspects of creating with clay.  Hand building is the perfect way to get acquainted with this very flexible medium.  It is for all age and talent levels, and the projects that can be accomplished are infinite. All materials included.
Cost: $65 public; $58.50 members

Saturday / Clayton

4. Family Movies and Crafts

When: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday Where: Hawn Memorial Library, 220 John St.
What: Enjoy movies and making crafts with the whole family.
Cost: Free

Saturday / Clayton

5. Double Play 2016 Swim Lessons

When: 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday
Where: Lowville Academy and Central School, 7668 N. State St.
What: Mommy and me class, any age. Pre-register at Double Play Fitness Center.
Cost: Ages 3+, $55.
INFO: or 376-7001

Saturday / Lowville

In parenting, study shows dads get all the fun and moms the stress and fatigue


Mothers and fathers are both happier when they’re with their children, new research shows, but 1950s-era parenting roles persist. And it’s taking a toll on mothers.

Despite working at nearly double the rate of their grandmothers, 21st-century moms still shoulder more of the drudgery of child-rearing and report time with their children as more tiring and stressful than it is for fathers, according to a new study from researchers at the University of Minnesota and Cornell University.

“It’s fair to say that moms do more of the work, and dads do more of the fun activities of parenting,” said Ann Meier, a sociologist at the university and one of the report’s authors. “There’s been some change, but we haven’t reached gender equality in parenting.”

The study used American Time Use Survey data to bore into the daily lives of more than 12,000 parents, measuring how happy, sad, stressed, fatigued and how meaningful their time was throughout the day, with their children and apart from them.

The higher levels of stress and fatigue that mothers report when with their children were a result of the types of things moms do with their kids — more of the blocking and tackling, less of the glamorous parts of parenting.

Mothers are more likely to multitask, the data showed, cooking and cleaning while with their children, directly caring for them or handling some other type of essential, behind-the-scenes management of the child’s life such as arranging appointments with the doctor, signing them up for summer camp or shuttling them around.

Fathers, in contrast, tend to relax with the kids.

“Dad’s time with kids is more likely to be in leisure activities, like watching TV or maybe going to a concert or sporting event as a spectator, socializing, eating and meal time, but not the work necessarily of preparing the meal,” Meier said.

Christina Connelly, of St. Paul, Minn., a mother of three in a dual-income household, has 6-year-old twins (a boy and a girl) and a 2-year-old daughter.

The twins forced a certain equality on the household when they were little, since both children needed to be fed simultaneously in the middle of the night, but some of the study’s findings sound familiar to her.

“My husband and I are pretty conscious of the importance of sharing household tasks and playtime,” she said. “I think naturally, though, he is better at playing, especially roughhousing with our son, while I seem to have some freakish talent for calendar management and necessary-but-boring daily tasks.”

Connelly knows not every woman is like her, but she multitasks all the time, she said. Even when she and her husband watch TV at the end of the night, she folds laundry or updates the family budget. Her husband finds it easier to relax. She’s not sure how much of that is based on gender, and how much is personality. But, she said, “The study hit home in saying that even when women have leisure time, they are more likely to still find some task to attend to rather than relaxing.”

This tendency to multitask, and work on other things while with the children, is one of the study’s key findings about why women report being more tired and stressed with their kids than men do. Whether it’s self-imposed, cultural or the result of dads just slacking off, for mothers the results are often similar.

Connelly said it’s a little irksome these days that her son sees her as the less fun parent, and doesn’t appreciate the quiet support she offers.

“He doesn’t care that I packed his library book for tomorrow, or even that I made him dinner, because I probably made him something he didn’t like,” she said, chuckling. “But if he can go out and fly a kite with his dad, that’s cool.”

The dynamic flips a little with her 6-year-old daughter, who enjoys helping her mom in the kitchen or working on projects together.

“All these things are so stereotypical, but it does play out that way in our house,” Connelly said.

Another crucial difference between mothers and fathers that emerged in the study is this: Women are dramatically more likely to be alone with their children, and men, about half the time, rely on other adults for help. The researchers say that’s one factor that leads to more stress and fatigue for mothers.

“There’s some kind of backup for dads oftentimes and there’s not that backup for moms as frequently,” Meier said. “The buck stops with them.”

The study, which used data from the Minnesota Population Center, also showed that while mothers on average get a little more sleep than fathers, their sleep is more frequently interrupted.

Meier, the researcher, said she’s not willing to blame mothers for imposing more of the work of parenting on themselves, even though she allows there is probably some of that going on.

“If dads picked up more of the work of parenting, and left some of the fun to moms, then their female partners would be happier and less stressed and less tired,” Meier said. “That could reset the balance a little bit and probably everyone would be a little better off for it.”

Winter 2016: Wellness

A necessary change for today’s children to foster healthy habits

Michelle Graham

Michelle Graham

The new year always brings hope for change. My hope for 2016 is to find ways for children and families to be more active and live healthier. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta has reported that almost half of the youth in America ages 12 to 21 are not participating in vigorous exercise on a regular basis. Worse yet, the CDC estimates 14 percent of youths report no physical activity at all. [Read more…]